When we kissed, it was like a trip to heaven. When I saw her after an extended absence, I actually felt chill bumps. I liked everything about her. I liked the way she looked, the way she talked, the way she walked, and I was especially captivated by her brown eyes. I even liked her mother and volunteered to paint her house- anything to let this girl know how much I loved her. I could not imagine any other girl being more wonderful than she. I think she had the same thoughts and feelings about me…within six months after marriage, we were both more miserable than we had ever imagined. The euphoric feelings were gone, and instead, we felt hurt, anger, disappointment, and resentment. This, we never anticipated when we were ‘in love.’ We thought that the positive perceptions and feelings we had for each other would be with us for a lifetime.
Culled from Chapter 1 (‘I wish I had known that being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage’) of ‘Things I wish I’d known before we got Married’ by Gary Chapman.